8 Ways to Pass Your Heritage on to Your Children

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8 Ways to Pass Your Heritage on to Your Children

As an immigrant living in the United States it is very difficult to maintain one’s culture and identity intact, since it’s only natural to be influenced by our new lifestyle and the predominant culture. However, for all of us who immigrated as adults, this influence cannot erase what we have deep-rooted within ourselves and while assimilating and learning the new ways, we embrace with pride the one thing we could not leave behind: our heritage.

This certainty of knowing where we come from helps us navigate the diversity in this country with ease. Then, we become parents and it’s a whole new ball game. We want our children to experience pride to be a part of our culture, to have a sense of belonging to that home we left years ago and they’ll probably only get to know for a few vacation days each year, or not even that.

The question is:  How do we achieve instilling our culture and identity to them?

The answer is simple, yet not easy. We are the main source of our culture they have available and it has to come to them the same way the dominant culture does, naturally and effortlessly. They have to live it on a daily basis and not feel they are forced into it, repetition will bring assimilation.

Our challenge is even greater when living in a community where there is little representation from our native culture, since the children will not have other examples of families where they can see similar traditions. That’s why we need to do our part in making our household a vivid representation of our home country.

One main focus most people have (including myself) is teaching the language from the very beginning. Making my children bilingual is very important to me and I truly believe that this is a huge element in understanding the culture and learning to like it. You cannot make your own what you can’t understand. That being said, keep in mind that language it’s not enough and there are other things you have to consider to make the experience more interesting for the kids.

bicultural family quote, culture quote, hispanic heritage quoteWhile this subject is very important to you, don’t forget that this is the culture where your children are growing up and most likely it will be the main cultural identity for them. The best thing you can do is to create a positive environment where being bicultural it’s something good and positive. Your children will likely blossom if they can experiment the American culture freely, without feeling they are betraying your teachings or are being judged.

The harmony between what you are teaching them and what they are learning outside of home is key to your success. Being critical about what the dominant culture has to offer is not appropriate and will make your children feel isolated and different from you. However, if you let them immerse and learn hand-by-hand what both cultures have to offer, they will see the upside of being multicultural.

Here, I give you a few tips of things you can do on a daily basis that will stay with your children while they grow.

1. Cook traditional foods and make mealtime something important. Eating while all sitting at the table will make the foods more meaningful.

2. Don’t forget your home country’s holidays; it will definitely be fun for your kids to have more holidays and celebrations.

3. If you live in a community where there is no representation from your culture, become one. Plan activities for your kids where you can show them more about your culture, invite your children’s friends.

4. Involve your children in issues relevant to your culture (depending on their age). Make them aware of cultural events, news or needs of the community.

5. Play traditional music in your home. You can create fun games about who dances better, who knows the lyrics and such.

6. Keep in touch with family members abroad. Let your children talk to cousins, aunts and uncles, grandmas and grandpas. This will make them feel part of that group as well.

7. Teach them basic history, the flag and basic geography of your country. They won’t know as much as a child that is being raised there, but they should know more than a child with a different background.

8. Speak to them in your own language. It’s one of the basics for your kids to get immersed in the culture, being able to communicate with relatives who don’t speak English.




  1. says

    Gracias Dania such great tips. This is something i am currently struggling with. I'm going to take your advice and become active in my community perhaps i will find other Mexican people :) My biggest struggle continues to be language. I am the only spanish speaking person around my children right now and i must admit i hardly speak it. Great post!

    • MamiCool says

      Thanks Ruby! Well, I know it’s hard, but you need to make an effort to speak the language to them, make it your special bonding thing. So they learn that talking to mami in Spanish is something special among yourselves. 

  2. says

    Dania, I love this.  My favorite point, of course, "If you live in a community where there is no representation from your culture, become one."  Love this list!  :)

    • MamiCool says

      Thank you Chantilly! I am glad you liked it, I am actually getting ready for that, since we’ll be relocating from NYC (mainly Dominican and Puerto Rican) to North Carolina, where I don’t think I’ll have the same amount of Latinos around, let alone, Dominican. :)

  3. says

    Great post, Dania. I think where we run into trouble as parents is when we try to “force-fit”  culture and heritage. I know that for our son, “teaching” him about his Italian and Mexican roots would be the same as trying to “teach” about math or science. If it’s structured learning, he wants no part of it. We’re blessed to have my mom living with us, so, at least I still have that connection to my family’s roots. My favorite part of the week is when she and I go out to lunch on the weekend; the conversation always veers off to her childhood. A little off-topic from your post, but something you made me think of are the people who want to bury their ancestry and completely disassociate themselves from it, their language and customs. That — I simply do not understand. Thank you for writing this! : D

  4. says

    This is a great post, Dania. Thanks for sharing your ideas!

    Being a Uruguayan in the U.S. is not easy, unless you live in Miami or NJ. I lived in Las Vegas, 3 towns in Utah and now I'm in Tallahassee, FL. In 6 years, I've only made 1 other Uruguayan friend… in Atlanta, GA! 
    To make things worse, I don't cook, so that part of my culture is very difficult to maintain… I can only provide it to my son when we go to restaurants or when we travel back home. History and holidays are easier to convey and celebrate. The family situation is getting more and more difficult due to a language barrier. My son had hearing problems until he was 2 1/2; unfortunately, his Spanish is very limited. I'm trying to change that now!

    Great post. Thanks.

  5. says

    Hello Dania, thanks for your article. I would say that as the world gets smaller – thanks to faster and bigger planes and the internet – and young people from other countries meet and fall in love with one another, the trend on bi-cultural or multicultural families will continue growing. As you pinpointed, these families should take their bicultural reality as something good and positive.

    Dilemmas ? Yes: when both of your countries' sport teams face each other – it is quite tempting to take one side, for whatever reasons. This is just one quick example.

    A few months ago, I launched a Video Portal called WiLinkU, with the objective of allowing Central Americans (as a starter) to have access to a user-friendly catalog of positive videos on touristic, cultural, artistic, and humanistic aspects in their home countries via the internet. Because, as you know, many immigrants stay mentally close to their homelands, no matter how far they physically are…