Can Interracial Love Triumph through Adversity?
Doomed to divorce?
Nowadays, everywhere you look there is news of relationships and marriages breaking up, whether it be celebrities, politicians, neighbors, friends or even family members. With a bleak 50% of marriages ending in divorce in the US today, it seems the odds are against any couple who takes the plunge. It is a miracle any marriage survives let alone an interracial marriage. So my question is “Can interracial love triumph through adversity?
There is no statistical evidence which states interracial marriages are more or less likely to end in divorce, but one fact is true: interracial relationships and marriages often face more adversity than same uniracial marriages. All marriages are not without problems, but when adding the mixing of two races into the equation, the stresses that couples face are often multiplied. They do not simply deal with their share of common marital problems but they also have to deal with the unwanted opinions from family, friends and strangers alike. While some interracial marriages are welcomed into families with open arms, others are faced with opposition from family and friends, which can not only tear a family apart and become a burden within the relationship. The majority of the comments may not even have racial tones but rather verbal demonstrations about why the relationship will not work. With this being said, how can interracial couples find the strength to last? It is hard not to wonder how mixed race marriages can survive and flourish amongst the overflow of outside influences trying to pull them apart.
The answer is simple
In the midst of war you will find your strength. For an interracial couple who is being beat down from all sides by outside negativity, they must find strength is each other. The realization begins to set in that they are both fighting the same battle and in this, a deeper love and respect for each other grows. From the beginning, the adversity that an interracial couple endures and how they react to it is a representation of whether or not the relationship will last. Throughout the marriage there will be moments of adversity; this will not end when the family finally accepts the relationship, if they ever do. So in mixed love, the commitment, the deep sense of unity and the giving all of one’s self to the relationship and marriage must be there with both parties. Lust will not last, but true love and true friendship will allow what many may believe is a strange awkward marriage, to last an eternity.
Angelique is the founder of MixedByLove.com an online community for mixed-race families, couples and people who want to discuss their struggles and share their joys.