A Non-Traditional Christmas Story: The Season for Giving

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 “No hay nada mas espactacular que la inocencia y creencia en la magia que mi hijo me muestra.  (There is nothing more spectacular than the innocence and belief in magic that my son shows me.)” — Tara from Me and the Mexican

There really is something magical about seeing your kids’ eyes light up with that innocence, that belief in magic. But what do you do when you can’t keep that magic alive?

We are not a religious family, but we are a spiritual family. We teach our kids to value and respect other people, to realize that we are a global community where everyone is connected. Helping others is same as helping yourself because of that connection. We teach our children the religious meaning that Christmas holds for many people, but we are not Christian. This time of year can be overwhelming for non-Christians: everywhere you go there is Christmas music; sidewalks are lined with holiday decorations; every tree is filled with Christmas lights. Santa Claus is everywhere.  It is hard to ignore Christmas, and truth be told—we don’t even try. Instead, my husband and I teach our children that Santa represents “the spirit of giving.” It’s not just about making lists of what you want, and then getting it if you’ve been good—it’s about giving to others.

Each year, my children go through all of their belongings to find things they think other children would like to have: clothes, toys, books, games. We donate the items to a charity, or tell tell them that Santa recycles. They put their gently used items under the tree for Santa to take, then Santa exchanges them for new gifts.  We also visit an indoor farmer’s market, dollar store, or small/safe shopping environment and give each child a small amount of money to buy gifts for whomever they choose. They shop, wrap, and deliver the gifts by themselves—sometimes for teachers, family members, or friends (one of my daughters asked that we send the money to Haiti to continue helping with earthquake relief; I think she has learned about the spirit of giving!) We try to deliver food to the local food pantry, put money in every Salvation Army kettle we pass, and talk about the fact that there are people in our community who need help. We look for ways to give to our community. The act of giving makes my kids’ faces light up with joy just as much as the act of receiving.

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My kids also receive gifts from Santa. They still believe in the magic of giving and receiving. While we teach about the act of giving, they are still kids and they love getting presents. Even at their ages (7-11) they are still mystified by the appearance of gifts under the tree. We are trying hard to keep that magic alive….but this time of year is really hard financially. We are a paycheck-to-paycheck middle class family. Right now we are just getting by day-to-day. We are able to eat, pay our bills, and continue supporting our kids’ extracurricular interests; but this year we don’t have anything extra to give without giving something up. I have been worried. We always stress that this time of year is mainly about giving, but will my kids’ hearts be broken if they don’t receive this year?

As parents, once you’ve started the Santa story, how do you end it without devastating your kids?



  1. MPF says

    It's so true. It's so hard to avoid all fun around even though you do not agree with or relate to some religious messages. I have a multicultural family coming from different beliefs and backgrounds, and I didn't grow up celebrating Xmas as my husband did, but for our two little kids we try to keep some traditions that we both grew up with. It's something that we have been avoiding for a while, but lately every holiday is becoming stressful and we are starting to realize that it's due to the uncertainty in own minds. It's very important to have an understanding spouse at these times. My husband and I are starting to realize that we need to make new traditions along with the old when these holidays come up. And I really liked reading this article and seeing how you exchanged the old with the new with your kids and gave new meaning to Santa and presents.

    Bravo! Keep it up and keep it strong!

    ~ T

    P.S. -why is it so hard to comment here? why not leave open commenting? I think there are a lot of people with opinion and questions in this matter! I love this place and I'm coming back but this way of commenting (with signing up) is a bit disappointing, no?

    • says

      @MPF Thanks for your comment and I apologize for the sign-up issue! :) We just started using this new comment system and per your reminder, I just changed the settings…thank you! ;)

      Totally agree with you on the holidays…multicultural families really do have to add in a bit of the new, as well learn to mix and match our traditions. It can be tough, but it's also a special treat for the little ones. =)

      Thanks again for stopping by!

      • MPF says

        @biculturalmom@MPF No Problem about the comment thing. I just wanted to make sure you knew. I am somewhat new to the blogging world too and I often don't realize how everything looks for other people. After reading this post, I was inspired to write my own. I had been thinking about it all morning because of the New Years Eve celebration.



  2. jenmardunc says

    @MPF Thanks so much for your support! And I too apologize about the commenting system. I especially apologize for not reading your comment sooner! We survived the holidays! Hope you had a joyous making of new traditions, too :)