On My Breasts & Why Men Should Stop Policing Them
Ok, so this isn’t really about my breasts. It’s about Dawn Holland’s breasts. Well, I guess it is kind of about my breasts, and Holland’s and every other woman’s. Let me explain.
Holland was recently asked to leave an Applebee’s restaurant for breastfeeding her son…
…in the back of the restaurant.
You’ve probably heard of incidences like this before. I have. All over the country, women are being harassed and turned out of establishments for feeding their children in the most natural way possible. It makes me wonder why I’ve never gotten “the talk.” Between my two kids, I’ve gotten down to business in nearly every conceivable environment. Restaurants, airports, grocery stores, libraries, malls, you name it. To be fair, I’ll admit I always use a cover, so that may be why I can get away with it. I don’t do it out of shame, but because my breasts are a private matter that I wish not to share with cashier no. 5. Modesty, however, is so not the issue, not when it comes to breastfeeding.
Breasts are For Men’s Pleasure Only
You know why? Because this says, “Hey there, fellas, feast your eyes on these babies. I brought them here just for you. I knew you’d like it, so I felt it was ok.” Men love to hear (and see) that. Women love to hear (and see) that too because so many of us have been brainwashed into thinking the same thing: a woman’s breasts (much like the rest of her body parts) are strictly for the pleasure of men. No substitutions.
Does that mean people think no woman should breastfeed ever, like ever, ever? Nope. They know breastfeeding is a pretty good idea, but they want you to do it in your home…
behind a screen…
inside your closet…
facing the wall…
using a breastfeeding cover.
That way they don’t have to ever acknowledge it or even think about the fact that breasts could exist for something more than arousal. All they have to think about is the sexual wonder of boobies. And that’s how it should always be, right? “Right,” says the boobie-loving masses.
Now, contrast the previous image that I linked to above, with this:
Now, this is some inappropriate stuff right here. Boobs bursting out of a shirt, I can take, but this? This mess right here? Call the cops, please! Sure, you can’t really see much, but do you see what’s attached to it? A baby! WTF! So, you’re just gonna sit there and use your breast in a motherly, non-sexual way? You’re just gonna make it obvious that your breasts have other, more important, functions than arousing a man? You’re just gonna suggest that you’re NOT an object, put here specifically for the fun and folly of the male species? The nerve! How rude!
That’s what’s really going on. People are so used to thinking of breasts as men’s “fun bags” that the idea of using them from something else is just wrong…unthinkable…perverse. That’s why you have women who say things like, “I’m not going to breastfeed. That’s nasty. That’s for my man.”
Yes, that’s a real quote and yes, its uttered more often than you think.
If you choose not to breastfeed, that’s fine. But, please, I beg of thee, let your reason be something more substantial than “That’s nasty.”
Was it nasty a mere 70 years ago before commercial formula brands began to gain popularity? Is it nasty to a woman who lives in a remote village where formula is literally unheard of? Is it nasty to a poor woman who can’t afford formula?
I’ll tell you what’s really nasty: refusing to open your mind to the
idea fact that a woman’s body has immeasurable value, most of which has nothing to do with exciting a man. That’s nasty.
Judging a woman based on her willingness and ability to cater to a man’s carnal desires. That’s nasty.
Viewing yourself and others through a lens that completely ignores the beauty of your heart and mind. That’s nasty.
Sending messages that teach young boys and girls that a woman’s looks are her greatest and only asset. That’s nasty.
If I sound a little heated right now, its only because I am. I can’t stand to see a woman cut down to a mere sexual object. Is the Mona Lisa just a painting? Is Kilimanjaro just a mountain? Does Stevie just sing well? Value should always be recognized.
Women are no different.